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Jeff + Lindy
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Ashtyn Arrived on July 11th, 2012

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Lindy will be mad at me for posting this but I made this blog to be honest and real:

Some of you may already know this, but my wife is brilliant. No joke, she is ridiculously hardworking, smart, and very likable (I know, I know - “then why is she with you Jeff?”).  To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, let me share some concrete evidence: Lindy was taking classes at the local college when she was in high school because she surpassed all the classes offered at her school! She gave the inspirational speech at her high school graduation! She worked full time as a preschool teacher during college to pay for her education (she never received any help financially and never took out any student loans)! She graduated Summa Cum Laude (with highest honors - a GPA over 4.0) in college!  She got hired right after she graduated by one of the most prestigious school districts in the state to teach Honors and AP English as a 22 year old in an economy where veteran teachers are struggling to find jobs! She’s the type of woman who could be a doctor, engineer, professor, or a fricken astronaut depending on what she focuses her attention on. She loves literature but possesses an insane aptitude for every subject the education system has to offer. In college, I couldn’t pass this one math class and I had taken it twice already (I failed once and dropped it the second time).  Lindy did not need the class for her major but took it with me so that she could help me pass and I did!!! Lindy got the highest grade in the class and was the first one done on every exam.  Needless to say - everyone hated her. 

Why am I bragging about my wife? Because lately we have been having a tough time with her working and being away from Ashtyn. It has been really difficult for her because I know that she wants to be home, but at the same time she is great at what she does and has so much potential to be a great mother AND an amazing professional. Sometimes, I think she wishes that she didn’t have so many opportunities, because it would make her decision to stay home with Ashtyn so much easier.

However, Lindy and I are both competitive, hardworking, and driven people who understand life on so many levels and we know that the sacrifices we make now will benefits our children in the future.  Unfortunately, that doesn’t make it any easier.

Weekly, Lindy and I have discussions about our home and work situations. They are becoming more frequent and serious with each conversation. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m blessed to have Lindy as a co-pilot.

*End Rant*

  1. m0nette said: I’m in the same boat as your wife right now…
  2. lacylullabies reblogged this from kidsraisingkids and added:
    This made me tear up :’) It is nice to read such loving things, and I hope that when the time comes for me to have kids...
  3. thebruhnettegazette said: It really is tough to find that working professional/ mom balance! I hope that you work everything out so that she is happy and content. I wish I could stay at home too, but unfortunately, Southern California doesn’t afford us that :(
  4. barverineceaser said: That is the sweetest thing!
  5. welcometojupiteeer reblogged this from kidsraisingkids and added:
    Hey, everybody, this is what a good man sounds like.
  6. welcometojupiteeer said: that was beautiful! i hope you guys can sort it out nicely :)
  7. sarahswar said: I want to be her in my next life, please. :)
  8. kayvioletb said: This post is so sweet I think it gave me Type 2 diabetes. Ashtyn is a very lucky little girl to be able to say her parents are such hard working and loving people.